Wednesday, 13 May 2009

• My church is in crisis--HELP

  I recently read a blog entry from a user that was concerned about the teachings of her pastor and if she and her husband should leave the church. My situation is very similar...only to the nth degree. Here are a few excerpts of things my pastor has said (and continues to say) in many of his sermons...and at any given time. WARNING: CONTENT IS SEXUALLY CHARGED
  
  1. About a year ago, he'd been teaching a series having to do with the issue of fornication in the church (kinda of a play on the TV series, "Sex in the City"). He found it necessary to discuss many of the private, sexual matters of he and his wife, the mother and First Lady of our congregation. Here's some of what he related regarding his wife:
  "I like sucking on you; kissing on you; pulling on you;" that when he first met her, her breasts were like plums now they're like watermelons, etc.
  
  2. In the middle of sermons, he felt compelled to find out who in the church was fornicating. He proceeded to ask each and every unmarried member: "Are you screwing?"
  
  3. Most recently on Mother's Day 2009, after he'd lauded his wife for everything she does for him, the church and others, he then found it necessary to express how much he is in love with her, which turned into a lewd fest. These are some of the comments he related to the congregation about he and his wife:
  "I like kissing on you, sucking on you, pulling on you, touching you..."
  "I don't sleep with shorts on..."
  "I sleep in bed with my wife every night..."
  
  The above is a very small portion of the kinds of things our congregation is exposed to on a regular basis. Not to mention the nausea-inducing emphasis on money and the kind of control the pastor seems to have over the entire congregation, from what married couples should or should not be doing in bed to where parents should send their children to school, etc. I can tell you that many in our congregation thinks the pastor's vile rhetoric is funny, but there are many who do not think so and have left the church for one reason or another.
  
  I've been praying about leaving, as the spiritual robustness of the church as deteriorated significantly over the 9 years I have been a member. This is a difficult decision to make, as this church has become family to me. But, I feel that God is with me. I believe in doing things decently and in order, which would be to talk to the pastors about how I feel and inform them of my decision to leave. However, judging from how other members who have left the church are often mocked and ridiculed during sermons, I fear this will be my fate. I've been fasting and praying over the matter and know God will give me the right time to speak with the leadership and the right words to say.
  
  Your thoughts and comments are appreciated.

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